…”And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”.
So today I had a moment, I was driving home and I started to think about where I am and who i have around me. I know I have mentioned this before, but there is this immense pressure for me to get married have kids and settle into this ‘wifey’ life.
But if I’m honest, I’m feeling quite chilled about the whole thing. It’s only because family and friends around me (like to remind me… constantly) that i am single and always have been (more or less…). So anyway I am reflecting about all of this on my trip home and then i instantly refer to Genesis 2:23, (We give God all the Glory). My Pastor has always said this verse is very important and i understand it as the first moment man chose his wife.
sORRY did yOu just Read whAt I SaidD??
Man chose his wife, God caused a deep sleep unto Adam because he needed a helper, a mate, a suitable, adapted and complementary suitor (adapted from the amplified version of verse 20) so why should i be the one stressing?
I mean yes i am guilty of taking things into my own hands at times, i.e online dating, blind dates, tinder swipes and the “random meet-ups” simply because I am trying to speed up the process, but really what can I do? I am guilty of forcing myself to like someone, laugh at their jokes and send an unmeasurable amount of emoji’s in the morning just to show my interest *shivers* but can I say I really felt they were the one?
So to keep this short, Adam chose his wife and in verse 23 you don’t hear Eve say anything she was brought to Adam by God! I’m gonna need to highlight this again…
Genesis 2:22 – “And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man” KJV
Lets peep this in amplified…
Genesis 2:22 “And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man, He built up and made into a woman and he brought her to the man” AMP
The reason why scripture is so important to me at this very moment, because i am telling you it is so easy to give in to my carnal desires. I am so used to making my own choices regarding men (which have got me nowhere, if anything it has got me less than that, it has got me into a minus) -_-…
A few weeks ago i rekindled a friendship with an old friend, we used to work together but fell out (not going to go into details here) but made up. Now she is in a happy relationship and honestly i am happy for her, when we were talking though she must have read desperation or deficiency in my face. She now said it important i find someone asap, and you know what I didn’t dispute it because yes i would like to find a suitor..
She invited me to a BBQ and i met her partner and his friends. I was introduced to the girlfriend of one of the friends, who I am pretty sure hated me instantly, (i dunno why I am fabulous) lol. So this girl, lets call her Monique (cant remember her name) and say Moni for short. Moni insisted we took pictures on HER mans phone which she sent to HER phone of me and everyone else… (and i looked HORRID) you know when you were caught mid speech? anyway that is not the point of this story but I was a bit embarrassed so i had to share that moment. I just kept thinking ahh I bet she sent it to a group WhatsApp or something… (am I being para?) Anywaaays…
Throughout my time at the BBQ my friend insisted on telling EVERYONE that I was single and looking to mingle. Moni also thought it would be funny to ask her boyfriend to ask ANOTHER guy if HE LIKES ME.. so yeah i just wanted to crawl into a hole at that point. I just kept thinking “why the hell did i come here?” “Why have i collected another L”?
Anyway by this point I left and told my friend i will call her later, when we spoke she didn’t understand why i felt so bad and just kept saying it wasn’t that deep. Maybe it wasn’t and maybe i was over reacting, but after reflecting I realised I need to think of myself and leave peoples business their business. Like babes I’m happy your in a relationship but no I don’t need to meet his family and friends, just send me the invite to the wedding and ill go buy my hat!